Managing Your Move to or in Little Rock: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 1

managing your moveMoving is the grown-up equal of elementary school—everyone is really zealous about the prospect, but it's only the folks with reasonable expectations who end up having a good time. Sure, it is a new home, a new beginning, and the possibility of a wonderful new life--but once that last empty moving van pulls away and you are standing there in the middle of your boxes, you've still got to do the actual work.

Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to beginning that new life on the right foot--and that means not only acknowledging the fact that a new house will not magically melt off the thirty pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in good circumstances and you and your family should allot the time and space to accept that.

One of the odd things about a local move--new abode, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be harder on the kids than a long-distance relocation. A new house hundreds of miles away eliminates the non-stop requests to go visit their friends in the old neighborhood, and it is less difficult to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone.

But let’s get back to the topic. There are three Ps when it comes to managing your move to or in Little Rock--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge will need to be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I'll sort through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you think you do. Whether you take care of your own packing or employ professionals, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to take with you.

Purge

Purging is one of those odd words you don't hear a lot, at least in a affirmative connotation. However, getting rid of the old baggage is one of the best ways so that you can empower your new abode to grant your expectations of grandeur. There are hundreds of guidelines and pointers to help you figure out the best ways to go through your old items, from pragmatic--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a tad wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its basic level, purging is simply sorting through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and making three piles: take with you, toss, donate. Or you might have four piles if you've got some very gently used things that you don't want anymore, and consign those items.

The hardest thing about purging is retaining the aloofness it requires to be relentless about getting rid of things. If you kept all those pre-school drawings, how can you get rid of them and be a great parent? Here is how—appoint a friend to help you sort through things and talk you through why you're saving things that are really better out of the house. Having someone ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in focus and you'll have an easier time growing the throw away pile if you have got someone to support your decisions.

If your partner is the one with the pack rat habits, here is a tip for assisting an unwilling participant part with their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and progressively build to more important items, like collections (for instance, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest).

Join us next time as we discuss managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.