Managing Your Move to or in Little Rock: Expectations vs. Reality--Part 102/18/2018Moving is the mature equivalent of high school—everyone is really gungho about the prospect, but it's only the people with sensible expectations who end up having a smooth move. Sure, it is a new abode, a new beginning, and the possibility of a awesome new life--but once that last empty moving van heads down the road and you are standing there in the middle of your boxes, you've still got to do the real work. Managing your move with realistic expectations is fundamental to beginning that new life on the right foot--and that means not only acknowledging the fact that a new house will not wondrously melt off the thirty pounds you have good intentions to lose, but that moving is emotionally difficult even in good circumstances and you and your family should allocate the time and space to accept that. One of the crazy things about a local move--new home, neighborhoods, schools--is that can be more difficult on the children than a long-distance relocation. A new house hundreds of miles away eliminates the constant requests to go hang with their friends in the old neighborhood, and it could be less difficult to embrace a new life and new friends when your old ones are in a different time zone. But let’s get back to the topic. There are three Ps when it comes to managing your move to or in Little Rock--Purge, Pack, and Pay. What you do not purge must be packed, and the more you pack, the more you will pay. Expectation—I'll sort through old stuff and only save what I love. Reality--you love a lot more than you think you do. Whether you handle your own packing or appoint professionals, you have got to decide what is worth the time and money to take with you. Purge Purging is one of those odd words you do not hear a lot, at least in a affirmative implication. However, letting go of the old baggage is one of the best ways so that you can allow your new residence to meet your expectations of grandeur. There are hundreds of guidelines and pointers to help you figure out the best ways to go through your old stuff, from down-to-earth--"if you haven't used/worn it in a year get rid of it"; to a bit wacky--"toss all your negative energy out with the old towels". At its simplest level, purging is simply sorting through all the cabinets, closets and drawers and constructing three piles: take with you, toss, donate. Or you could have four piles if you've got some next-to-new things that you don't need anymore, and consign those items. The hardest thing about purging is retaining the aloofness it requires to be relentless about tossing things. If you kept all those pre-school drawings, how can you get rid of them and be a great parent? Here is how—appoint a friend to help you pick through things and talk you through why you are keeping things that are really better to be gotten rid of. Having someone else ask you out loud why you want to hang on to the 1980s cassette tapes does put things in focus and you'll have a less difficult time growing the throw away pile if you have got someone to support your decisions. If your significant other is the one with the pack rat habits, here is a suggestion for assisting an unwilling participant part with their treasures. Think small, and commence with the kitchen junk drawers, try to limit handling of old matchbooks and old crayons to one time only and steadily build to more important items, like collections (for instance, choose two or three porcelain bunnies and donate or consign the rest). Catch up us next time as we discuss managing your move subjects: Pack and Pay, in Part 2 of this blog series.